If you could corner Love in a room, what would you ask?
Kai: Thank you for coming, Love. You are always on my mind, yet you are so mysterious that I don’t know what you are even when I feel your presence. Can you help me understand so I can more fully know you?
Love: I am everything. I am the glue that holds reality together. I am all that is and all that isn’t, form and no form, thought and feeling, past and present.
Kai: But if you are everything, how can I see or feel you? I feel like a fish in the water. There is no way a fish can know about water because the fish is embedded in the water, and there would be no fish without water.
Love: Exactly, my curious friend.
Kai: So what you are saying is that my exploration of Love is the same as my exploration of myself. We are two pieces of the same thing, expressed in unique ways.
Love: Yes, there is only Love, but in this experiment, this game that you are playing by embodying in human form, you are facing an exquisitely tricky challenge. As soon as you were born, you were flung into the illusion of separation, forgetting that you were not just an individual but a unique expression of me. All of your education and conditioning made you forget what you knew in the womb: there is no separation. You are and will always be connected with all that is. Few people talk about this when raising a child. A good mother or father wants their child to be special, and their parental Love often supports individuation, not connection.
Kai: Yes, I know that is true. So, how do we find our way back?
Love: Perhaps it would be helpful to think of Love not as a thing but as the ground of all being. You say, “What about wars, violence, and abuse? That doesn’t sound like Love.” That is because you don’t understand. Duality is the game you are playing. It requires the human to see things in terms of this or that, right or wrong, good or bad. That isn’t really how things are. There is no good without the bad, up without a down, empty without full. These are just conventions we use to talk about the world, but beyond duality, there is another level of reality.
Kai: What do you mean?
Love: Love just is. It is what you were made out of. It is the glue of reality and the ground. But that ground is hidden from view in the consensual reality. So that is why you need the practice of loving. Loving is different than what I am. I am immovable. In every human and in every form, there is planted a seed, a seed of remembering. In a human, this is expressed as the infant’s turning toward the breast and the mother’s offering. It is the infant’s gazing into the mother’s eyes and seeing herself. It is the lover’s longing for the beloved and the gift of orgasm that takes us beyond the self into union. Even the rose turns its head toward the sun to receive the kiss of warmth, and the tree digs its roots into the earth to be nourished. Everything is seeded with not just the longing but the need for connection. Atoms reach out to each other, giving themselves up to something new and perhaps never seen. Cells move toward each other, birthing two-celled organisms that grow into wonders of life and creativity. The air enters your body, connecting with all parts of your organism, giving you life and the energy to connect with all creation. Everything is in a wild dance of connectivity, and that connectivity is what I am — love in the service of all that is.
Kai: Yes, I get that, but what about all the world’s violence?
Love: Strangely enough, it is all part of the wild dance of connectivity. Even in war, there is a strange need to connect. Sometimes, there are lessons learned. It is all grist for the mill.
Kai: That is hard to hear, but even looking at my own life, I understand that the dark is necessary for the light to shine.
Love: Loving is the practice that aims toward me but can’t stay. It is the kindness, the passion, the willingness to surrender, the forgetting, and the remembering. You practice, and you fail, yet the seed will grow. Don’t give up.
What questions would you ask of Love?